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    Too Much Overpraising?

    What did Mr. Weissbourd's research tell him? That nowadays "well-intentioned adults undermine children's moral and emotional development." Parents have abandoned the "moral task" of rearing children, he says, and are more concerned about fostering their happiness than their goodness. Therapeutic interaction takes precedence over moral instruction; intimacy is maintained at the cost of authority.

    "Blaming peers and popular culture lets adults off the hook," Mr. Weissbourd writes. "The parent-child relationship is at the center of the development of all the most important moral qualities, including honesty, kindness, loyalty, generosity, a commitment to justice, the capacity to think through moral dilemmas, and the ability to sacrifice for important principles."
    From a Wall Street Journal review of Weissbourd's book, The Parents We Mean to Be.
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    This burdensome sort of parenting may also play a role in parents who coerce teachers to give their kids higher grades than the kids deserve.
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    Quote Originally Posted by simone View Post
    This burdensome sort of parenting may also play a role in parents who coerce teachers to give their kids higher grades than the kids deserve.
    At least they show some interest in their child's future. Even if they show it in a negative way.

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    I have a 10 yr old, 13 and a 15 yr old.

    What has this generation of parents gone through that has been so dramatic that makes them want to make thier child's life so stress and responsibility free?

    Or is it the lack of drama that has lead us to believe that our children should have "all the things" we didn't have?

    I don't raise my kids that way but I see how thier peers are being raised.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Steamroller View Post
    I have a 10 yr old, 13 and a 15 yr old.

    What has this generation of parents gone through that has been so dramatic that makes them want to make thier child's life so stress and responsibility free?

    Or is it the lack of drama that has lead us to believe that our children should have "all the things" we didn't have?

    I don't raise my kids that way but I see how thier peers are being raised.
    I assure you that, come high school, your child's life will be anything but "stress and responsibility free".
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    Quote Originally Posted by simone View Post
    From a Wall Street Journal review of Weissbourd's book, The Parents We Mean to Be.
    Now that's something I can agree with.
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    The admission of a sociopathic serial killer.

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    He should practice what he preaches.

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