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    Angry Why straight men are afraid of gays

    I was thinking why straight men hate the idea of gay men existing in our society. Maybe its because they are insecure of their mascuility. It takes a real man to be touch with their feminity self. A straight man should feel good when a gay man checks him out. It means you are good-looking enough. Why would a gay man bother with a straight man that looks like a little boy with dirt under his nails and holes in the underwear just like grandpa.

    Gay men have money and power now a days. They deserve to marry and adop children. There is no damage to children if raised by two men. As least they can teach them love and caring instead of bigotry.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LadyOreo
    I was thinking why straight men hate the idea of gay men existing in our society. Maybe its because they are insecure of their mascuility. It takes a real man to be touch with their feminity self. A straight man should feel good when a gay man checks him out. It means you are good-looking enough. Why would a gay man bother with a straight man that looks like a little boy with dirt under his nails and holes in the underwear just like grandpa.

    Gay men have money and power now a days. They deserve to marry and adop children. There is no damage to children if raised by two men. As least they can teach them love and caring instead of bigotry.
    And teach them that perversion is ok and morals don't apply to society anymore. Oh, I forgot moral priniciples were thrown out the window 50 years ago. Silly me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jaaaman
    And teach them that perversion is ok and morals don't apply to society anymore. Oh, I forgot moral priniciples were thrown out the window 50 years ago. Silly me.
    Don't respond to this. How is a woman going to tell a man what we think when they're generally indecisive.

    She doesn't even understand we're not afraid let alone why we're not afraid.
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    Quote Originally Posted by LadyOreo
    I was thinking why straight men hate the idea of gay men existing in our society. Maybe its because they are insecure of their mascuility. It takes a real man to be touch with their feminity self. A straight man should feel good when a gay man checks him out. It means you are good-looking enough. Why would a gay man bother with a straight man that looks like a little boy with dirt under his nails and holes in the underwear just like grandpa.

    Gay men have money and power now a days. They deserve to marry and adop children. There is no damage to children if raised by two men. As least they can teach them love and caring instead of bigotry.
    My only difficulty with your post is that as a man I reject any assessment of appropriate maleness made by a female. I wouldn't presume to tell you what constitutes a "real" woman.
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    its not that anybody is afraid of gays. most gays i know are quiet submissive and not at all intimidating. its just that straight men disagree with gay ideals. its similar to the way republicans and democrats disagree, or athiests and christians. its not about fear, they just dont see eye to eye on what is a major and sensitive social issue
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    Quote Originally Posted by unkerpaulie
    its not that anybody is afraid of gays. most gays i know are quiet submissive and not at all intimidating. its just that straight men disagree with gay ideals. its similar to the way republicans and democrats disagree, or athiests and christians. its not about fear, they just dont see eye to eye on what is a major and sensitive social issue
    It's not about agreeing with gay men but respecting each other and not being a bigot. What is wrong with being gay or lesbian. As long as no one is getting hurt. What is the problem?

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    Quote Originally Posted by unkerpaulie
    its not that anybody is afraid of gays. most gays i know are quiet submissive and not at all intimidating. its just that straight men disagree with gay ideals. its similar to the way republicans and democrats disagree, or athiests and christians. its not about fear, they just dont see eye to eye on what is a major and sensitive social issue
    Nope. As a straight man, the only disagreement I have with gay men is where I like to put my penis. And that's not even exactly true. They can do what they want with theirs, and I'll do what I like with mine. There's really no conflict at all. I don't care who someone else wants to have sex with anymore than I care if they like broccoli or not.

    I really don't know why some stright men ( and not all striaght men, could we please make that distinction here?) feel enough anger towards gays to resort to violence and other forms of agression. I can only guess that it's some sort of learned behavior, picked up from the general homophobia that's out there.

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    Im a straight guy and a stubborn supporter of gay rights.

    So eh.
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    I was thinking why straight men hate the idea of gay men existing in our society.
    Your sterotype is too large. I am a hetrosexual male and am a supporter of gay rights. I am not afraid of homosexuals and do not hate the idea of gay men existing in our society.
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    Quote Originally Posted by LadyOreo
    I was thinking why straight men hate the idea of gay men existing in our society. Maybe its because they are insecure of their mascuility. It takes a real man to be touch with their feminity self.
    Some of them aren't so secure with their straight identity. If they were secure, they'd realize that gay people have nothing to do with and are not threat to their straight person's lives, because they are not gay. However, some secretly long to be gay, but can't deal with that part of themselves. So they need society's disapproval and fear tactics against gay people(claim they are all diseased, etc), otherwise there wouldn't be anything stopping they themselves from being gay.

    Notice how some of the anti-gay debaters in this forum, talk about the need for people to make an effort to be straight(if you really are straight it shouldn't require an effort), and that being gay is only a way of acting or behaving?

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    Quote Originally Posted by LadyOreo
    It's not about agreeing with gay men but respecting each other and not being a bigot. What is wrong with being gay or lesbian. As long as no one is getting hurt. What is the problem?
    like i said, the same could be said about the contempt evolutionist hold for creationists or republicans for democrats. none of these ideals are hurting the other person, yet people get very defensive about their beliefs and ideals no matter what its about. as long as there's dogma, theres gonna be heated disagreement, unfortunately to the point of violence in some cases
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    We all have a threshold:

    How many straight men would be completely comfortable to find out that their fishing buddy who they respect and who's company they thoroughly enjoy has a "crush" on them and fantasizes about having sex with them regularly?
    Would you fish and sleep in the same tent with them again?

    Just supposin'
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    Quote Originally Posted by sinjin
    We all have a threshold:

    How many straight men would be completely comfortable to find out that their fishing buddy who they respect and who's company they thoroughly enjoy has a "crush" on them and fantasizes about having sex with them regularly?
    Would you fish and sleep in the same tent with them again?

    Just supposin'
    Me, for one. I had a gay housemate, and we went camping together. Three days in the same tent, no problems. And, in the interest of full disclosure, he had said some time before that that if I ever wanted to "experiment" he'd be willing to help. I don't know if he was actively fantasizing during the camping trip or not, nor did I care. He knew I wasn't interested in sex, and so that was that.

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    I only know one guy who is totally anti-gay. He's a known idiot, bigot, and his opinion never counts for anything in any argument my circle of friends has.

    The rest of my friends are either supportive of gays, or are indifferent. I think it's mostly older guys (35+) who don't like '*****s'. The same type of people who think that Mexicans are "stealing our jobs". Some people are just too narrow minded for their own good.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jerichoholic104
    I only know one guy who is totally anti-gay. He's a known idiot, bigot, and his opinion never counts for anything in any argument my circle of friends has.

    The rest of my friends are either supportive of gays, or are indifferent. I think it's mostly older guys (35+) who don't like '*****s'. The same type of people who think that Mexicans are "stealing our jobs". Some people are just too narrow minded for their own good.
    Gays, lesbians and straights --- we are all the same. We should respect and learned from each other. Everyone is entitled to the same rights including marriage. That is not a special privilege but a right to marry the person you love. Gays and lesbians should be treated equally in this society. I don't understand why people are afraid of gay marriages. Why question love.

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